The five core numbers are life path, birthday, expression, soul urge and personality. These are significant in understanding life trends and characteristics. It is true that certain numbers are more compatible with each other as compared to others. If the name has changed, especially if the change has been made legal, the new numbers are given equal weight as the numbers in one's birth name.
One misconception I have heard is that the more numbers you have in common with someone else, the more compatible you are. Through studying thousands of charts of couples, I have not found a reliable connection between having more numbers in common and having a happier relationship or marriage. Neither have I found there to be a reliable connection between close friends and having more numbers in common. Having four or five numbers in common with someone else you encounter in daily life is statistically quite rare and it indicates a particularly karmic connection. Therefore there are not many long-term relationships having these numbers in common. When it does happen, (which is much more likely to occur outside a romantic relationship context), you can sense there is a fated quality to the meeting in that it could not be avoided. There is something important to be learned there. Usually there is a sense of unfinished business from previous lifetimes and you can gain more insight into what that might be by studying the rest of the synastry/ composite chart. I find this helpful in order to resolve things from your end so that the same situation does not repeat over and over again. Keep in mind that having more numbers in common does not necessarily mean that you will like/ trust the person, either in a friendship or romantic sense, that you would become close to the person or that they will be in your life for a long time. These things could happen but if they do it would be due to other factors in the Astronumerology synastry/composite, not because of the core numbers.
The bottom line is that in assessing compatibility, trust and emotional closeness, number similarity is not a defining feature. In contrast, understanding how one person's core numbers interacts with another's core numbers will give insight into their dynamic and life trends together.
What does it mean if I see repeating numbers?
Repeating numbers are always significant. If it happens write the occurrences down in a journal, the time you noticed it and what you were feeling when it happened. Each number is tied to a planet and if you see that number repeating it could indicate that planet's transits are about to be especially impactful for you over the near future. It could indicate that someone who has that planet heavily represented in their chart is about to play an important role in your life. For example, you keep seeing multiple number 8s. Eight corresponds to Saturn so someone with an angular Saturn, lots of Capricorn or Aquarius or number 8 in their numerology chart is about to influence you in a memorable way. On the other hand, it could be trying to tell you something about your upcoming Saturn transit.
If you are stuck in the middle of two options, two people, two situations or generally when you have to make a decision between going down one path or the other, the repeating numbers could be giving clues as to the one that serves your overall best interests in the most optimal way and/or give clues as to which one could end up sabotaging you. Again paying attention to your feelings and intuition when you see the numbers is critical.
A number that you notice very often could mean that the corresponding planets' energy in your life is out of balance and that you need to work on integrating it in your life in a healthier way. Planets that are out of balance create negative karma which manifests in the planet's weakness and malefic nature in future lives.
Pay attention to the repeating number's characteristics. Seeing a lot of 1s could mean you are about to take a totally different direction in life, something that is a total break with the past. Number 5 is significant for foreign travel and relocation. Number 6 could correspond to wanting to have a family, or indicate the urgent need to restore family harmony and closeness. Number 9 could mean you need to wrap up a certain issue or gain closure around it so you can move on.
There are many ways that I decode the meaning of the numbers. Like dreams, numbers have a definite message for you. The messages are not straightforward nor do they make sense immediately so being patient and taking detailed notes of when this happens will be of great benefit. They will also help me tremendously in trying to assist you to understand what they mean for your life during a reading.
What are the best numbers to optimize my overall success potential?
There is not one set of numbers that will be fortunate for everyone. The answer to this question is found in your Astronumerology chart and it has to be studied holistically to see which characteristics you want to bring out more and strengthen. There are "lucky" names for any given chart, names that tend to bring out the very highest potential of the person and make it really easy for them to attract what they want in life. Unfortunately this means there are "unlucky" names for your chart and that could be why some people find it really hard to get ahead in life despite working really hard.
What are my lucky numbers?
It depends on which planets are strongest and most favourable for you in your chart. It is similar to selecting a lucky gemstone, you have to understand how the corresponding planet is behaving in your chart to select its corresponding number to keep around you. Once you know your lucky numbers you can keep them around you and your living space.
Are crystals and numerology related?
Just like numbers, each crystal carries a unique vibration and meaning. Once you know which planets and numbers are best for you, you can choose to keep a crystal which carries a similar vibration around you. For instance, rose quartz has an affinity for Venus and number 6 because it represents love and romance. Laboradite has an affinity with Neptune and number 7 because of its ability to cause lucid dreaming and dream recall. Moonstone has an affinity with the Moon and number 2 as it enhances peace and emotional security. Keeping crystals in your pocket, wearing them as jewellery, or even keeping them in or attached to your bra for ladies, is a good way to infuse their energy into your aura. At night you can sleep with a crystal under your bed so that its energy has 6-8 hours to work its way into your system. During meditation placing a crystal on your body that relates to one of the seven chakras is also useful to balance your energy and be open to the spiritual messages of the crystals and numbers.